She was born on April 20, 2004. When she was 4 yrs old, she was diagnosed with Synovial Sarcoma. She was a brave fighter in all that she had endured. Sadly, This sweet young girl passed away at the age of 8 years old on June 07, 2012.
Donations will go to her Medical Bills, Funeral Expenses and Memorial Funds to be donated to Childrens Medical Cancer Research.
Please help us in raising airline tickets funds for the Trease family whom which reside in Clearwater , Nebraska and need to fly down to Orlando Florida for this once in a life time DREAM WISH for their daughter.from left to right, 5yrs old Miss Summer , Princess Nikki in the center 9yrs old and 11yrs old, big-sister & beauty Miss Jennifer Trease on the right.
Just like a snowflake or a fingerprint, every child especially a child with special needs, is unique in their own special way.
Every child has a unique way of feeling, thinking, and interacting with others. Some children are shy, while others are outgoing; some are active, while others are calm; some are fretful, while others are easy-going.
As a loving and nurturing parent, it’s your job to encourage them to embrace their uniqueness and celebrate their individual qualities. Allow your child to express themselves through their interests.
They may find a creative outlet in theatre, dancing or art, or they may be exceptionally talented in the sciences. Encourage them to embrace what they like to do, what interests them, and what makes them happy.
Help them realize that they don’t need to worry about being ‘like everyone else.’
Teach your child to make positive choices, and praise them for good deeds, behaviors and positive traits they possess. Encourage them to become actively involved in their community, and introduce them to activities that promote a sense of cooperation and accomplishment.
Be firm yet fair when handing down discipline for misdeeds or misbehaviors, and make certain the rules and consequences for breaking the rules are clearly defined.
Show a cooperative, loving and united front with your spouse when it comes to discipline.
Accept your child’s uniqueness….
Remember that your child is an individual.
Allow your child to have his or her own personal preferences and feelings, which may be different from your own.
And finally, encourage your child to be true to themselves by doing the same.
Show your child how to make positive choices with the choices you make, and that nobody is perfect and you too make mistakes.
Show your child that mistakes can be a great learning experience, and that they should not be ashamed or embarrassed about making them.]]>
You Can never Spoil a Child through Love.
We all worry about spoiling our child, especially if they special needs, but rest assured that you can never spoil your child with too much love.
Love does not and never will, spoil a child.
Love is imperative to a child’s healthy development and self esteem and it’s just not possible to ever love your child too much.
All children need caring adults to spend time with them, play with them, teach them, protect them, and enjoy life with them, to be there, for both the good times and the bad times.
It’s a parent’s number one priority to provide love, safety and encouragement.
The process of growing up provides children with many challenges, both big and small, and as a parent we want to protect our children and make all there worries disappear. Instead, listen to them, keep an open mind and try to understand their situation. Communicate honestly with them when they have difficulties and letdowns in their life.
Set appropriate limits with your child and then adhere to them!
The purpose of establishing limits with your child is to give them a sense of safety and security. Sometimes parents do not set limits because they don’t want to fight with their children, or they are scared of the consequences. They don’t want to cause bad feelings or be the ‘Bad Guy’. They may beg a child to cooperate or they may make rules and fail to enforce them. They may nag, beg and plead their child, without ever enforcing the rules.
This type of behaviour is NOT helping your child at all!
When your child fails to follow the rules or comply with the boundaries you’ve set for them, be firm yet kind in your response and how you deal with the situation. This lets them know that you’re serious about enforcing the rule but dedicated to helping and loving them. Keep in mind though that each child is different… what works for one child may not work for another; For example, one child may respond well to the direct approach of telling them to pick up their toys before dinner, where as another child may need a gentle reminder that it’s almost dinner time and their toys need to be picked up.
Develop a firm but kind manner of making and enforcing your household’s rules and expectations.
There’s no need for you to fear your child, just because they have special needs, and there should be no need to instil a sense of fear in them in order to get them to cooperate with us.
Be kind, loving and respectful, yet firm and you will get this in return from your child]]>
Having a special need child in the family doesn’t mean you have to panic. Just like other kids, special needs children can learn to live a normal life and reach their full potential. Guidance, teaching and love are primary ingredients in rearing a special child and helping him reach full potential.
The “panicking” of parents upon learning about their child’s situation can be attributed to some common misconceptions in dealing with special needs children. These misconceptions lead to the thought that there is no bright future for special needs children. Unless these myths are fully understood and corrected, parents will never know that special needs children will still reach their full potentials. Here are the top 3 common special child misconceptions and the truth about them:
* Parenting and teaching a special child will take away all your happiness and replace it with difficulties.
This may be true to some persons who don’t love the child at all – but does this type of person exist? How can parents not love their own child no matter what his needs are? Parenting and teaching a special child is not a reason to be unhappy. It is all in the attitude! Rearing a child with special needs doesn’t take away your happiness. You may be unhappy but it’s your choice. You can choose to be happy and satisfied caring and teaching your special child. Rather than letting yourself be imprisoned by the situation, be in control. Plan exciting activities that will help you enjoy at the same time leave an effective learning experience to your child.
* Special needs children will never reach their full potential.
This is another myth. Just like any other children, special needs children can reach their full potential. They can learn to speak, read, and interact with other people. They have the ability to live a happy, satisfied and complete life. But they won’t be able to achieve these on their own. They need guidance and proper teaching for them to be the best person that they could be. You should not be the judge of your child’s potential. Let him explore and learn. There are several education materials that cater to teaching special needs children reach their full potential.
* Nobody understands the difficulties of parenting and teaching special needs children.
No two persons are the same. The individual difference theory is true but it doesn’t apply to situations. You may be facing the challenge of parenting or teaching differently abled children but you are not alone. Many other parents or teachers have been through the same situation. The only thing that differs is the way people handle special situations like this. There are even foundations and organizations that cater to helping parents and teachers cope up with the challenge of teaching and parenting children with special needs.
Parenting and teaching special needs children is an easy task if you know how to handle the situation. Don’t panic! Know what is true and what is not. Don’t judge a situation based on pure misconceptions. As long as you know what to do, parenting and teaching children with special needs will be a satisfying and fulfilling experience.]]>
Choosing to homeschool your child is a huge decision.
Then add to that a child with special needs.
This brings up all kinds of mixed feelings, uncertainties, and emotions. I feel we tend to sell ourselves short when it comes to our children with special needs because this is uncharted territory. However, with research, resources, and much prayer you can do it.
Here are ten reasons to homeschool your special needs child:
1. No one knows and understands your child’s needs better than you do.
Who is there when your child is diagnosed with a special need? Who spends a great deal of time at doctor appointments, in therapy sessions, and by their beds when they are sick? You! As parents or guardians of children with special needs, you have been through thick and thin with your child. You know and sometimes understand a need or behavior your child might be experiencing. Your knowledge of his or her needs allows you to modify your child’s schooling based on his or her needs instead of his or her needs having to conform to someone else’s teaching method or classroom rules.
2. Homeschooling provides positive socialization opportunities.
One of the most common questions we hear as homeschoolers is “What about socialization?” Something I have learned over the years is that not all socialization is good or positive—especially for a child with special needs. Developing positive relationships with Mom and Dad is one of the best experiences a child can have in life. With homeschooling you are able to help special needs children nurture and develop positive relationships with others around them. Some of the most positive socialization comes from family and friends of all different ages who help them learn to interact with adults as well as children.
3. There are fewer distractions.
When a special needs child is trying to learn, the last thing he needs is distraction. Most have to work harder to focus on their work, so when you have their attention it is important to keep it. Having them at home gives you the opportunity to keep distractions at a minimum. If you need to take that child into a separate room during instruction time and close the door so that he or she can concentrate better, you can do that. Staggering the teaching time between your special needs child and your other children is helpful.
4. You can provide one-on-one teaching.
Many special needs children require one-on-one guidance throughout their daily lives. This holds true for their education as well. You can sit down face to face with them and take as much time as needed to explain and work through the task at hand. Giving your special needs child one-on-one attention not only can help encourage and improve your relationship, but it also can give him or her a positive school experience. Also it helps you as his or her teacher to be able to see where adjustments and improvements need to be made to personalize your child’s education.
5. It gives you the ability to focus on your child’s strengths—not weaknesses.
Children with special needs face all kinds of challenges. The last thing they need in their education is negativity. You can take the subject or work area that they are strongest in and spend as much time as is needed throughout their day working on this. This can boost their confidence, providing them with an opportunity to say, “Hey, I’m good at this!” instead of feeling frustrated while working on tasks they aren’t ready for. If they have subjects that they are not as strong in or are struggling to comprehend, you can just touch on these subjects briefly throughout the teaching time. Minimize their frustration by focusing more attention on their stronger subjects.
6. Use your child’s interest or compulsive tendencies as educational tools.
My daughter with Down syndrome loves to shuffle cards repetitively on a daily basis. She rarely goes anywhere without them. So, we use them in her education. She has trivia cards that we use for reading and playing cards that we use for number order, number recognition, sequential counting, addition, and subtraction. She loves it because she is getting to use her favorite things while she is doing school.
7. Siblings or other homeschoolers can encourage and help your child with his or her schoolwork.
Siblings are fantastic teachers for your child with special needs. They are fantastic motivators. When your special needs child sees a sibling learning to write in cursive, you may very well hear these words from your special needs child: “I want to learn how to write like that.” You might find yourself teaching your special needs child something you never thought possible. If you don’t have siblings, then you can recruit a fellow homeschooler to spend time with him or her.
8. Personalize self-help and life skills to meet your child’s specific needs.
Each child with special needs has very different needs. If your special needs child is at home, you can identify his or her needs and discern what he or she needs help with to grow up to be as self-sufficient as possible as an adult. If this means that you dedicate an entire school year to teaching him or her how to feed himself or herself with a spoon or how to choose the appropriate clothing to wear for the weather outside, then that should be a part of his or her education that is just as important as math and reading. Children with special needs do have to work harder to accomplish tasks, with lots of repetition and positive reinforcement, and this holds true for self-help and life skills.
9. Teaching morals, values, and manners is also important for children with special needs.
Homeschooling your children gives you an opportunity not only to verbally teach them your family’s morals, values, and manners but also to show them by your example. Just because your child has special needs doesn’t mean that you can’t teach him or her these things too. You want him or her to have every opportunity that life can offer, just like anyone else. If we hold back on teaching our special needs children how to be respectable people in life, then we are selling them short. The instruction might have to be broken down into smaller or simpler lessons, but it can be done.
10. You can share all of the different joys, excitement, and struggles that you and your child may encounter during his education.
Teaching a child with special needs can be rewarding and yet heartbreaking. Special needs children have to work harder at school and life. There is nothing more rewarding than to see your child achieve or comprehend something that he or she has been working on for weeks, months, and possibly even years. To see that joy and excitement after such a struggle is priceless, and with them at home you are right there to share it with them. You get to see the tears of joy and struggle and even shed some yourself.
As a parent of a special needs child, I feel that we have been chosen by God to raise these precious special children.
If He has laid it on your heart to home educate them, then He will be there to help guide you through the amazing journey.
It may not always be easy, but with much prayer and patience it can be done.
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Children are one of the greatest gifts in life also require a tremendous amount of work. If your great gift comes in a package with special needs, then the path can be even more difficult, yet more rewarding all at the same time.
Parenting requires a delicate balance of patience, support, love and discipline, no matter who the child is.
Worry comes along with the title “parent”. As parents we always worry if we are doing the right thing, and this is a very normal feeling to experience as a parent.
Those parents with a special needs child sometimes face a more difficult challenge. There is so much guilt associated with parenting and especially with a special needs child. When you are told that your child has any disability, or handicap it is easy to fall into the trap of feeling guilty. There is an important factor to consider however. A different perception of the special needs child is important when beginning to evaluate your parenting style. Many special needs children become spoiled. This is not meant to offend any parents or child, because it is said with all the love in the heart of any parent. Parents don’t mean to spoil their children, but those with special needs appear to be so helpless and disadvantaged, it is easy to make this mistake.
This may sound harsh and bring about anger in some readers, however this comes from my own personal experience. I have found that so many people underestimate the true ability of children with special needs. This is not limited to just the parents, it is true of anyone involved with the care of the special needs children, including their teachers, caregivers and medical professionals.
Each child is an individual. It is very important that you do not group your child into a specific category based on their diagnosis and on medical statistics. It is important not to give up on your child because of some standard limits or expectancy rates. Every child holds within themselves unlimited power. Expect good behavior, success and positive results from your child and give them every opportunity to achieve every thing the world offers them.
It is hard to do, but refrain from comparing your child to others. Allow them to be unique and display individualism. Let them experience their own unlimited power that they possess as an individual. Encouragement is important for every child’s success and well being. Let them reach for the stars and never give up. Hope is the major backbone for success. Expect success, and no no limits, and you will see the best results.
Children bring about the greatest joy and the greatest challenges in life. Parenting requires a careful balance of love, patience and discipline. Check out the parentinginformed site for helpful parenting tips and helpful advice every parent can use.]]>
You weren’t like other children,
And God was well aware,
You’d need a caring family,
With love enough to share.
And so He sent you to us,
And much to our surprise,
You haven’t been a challenge,
But a blessing in disguise.
Your winning smiles and laughter,
The pleasures you impart,
Far outweigh your special needs,
And melt the coldest heart.
We’re proud that we’ve been chosen,
To help you learn and grow,
The job that you have brought us,
Is more than you can know.
A precious gift from Heaven,
A treasure from above,
A child who’s taught us many things,
But most of all- “Real Love”